As parents, what do we do when our child is excluded, is on the receiving end of “mean girls’ behaviour“? Perhaps they even feel that what they are receiving is bullying.
A colleague (a mother of three children) shared this post with the staff a few weeks ago. I read it, feeling rather sad. Why do children (people) do this to one another? How often does it happen in our school?
Then, today, a mum of a young girl called me, at an absolute loss. Her daughter has been excluded – not once, in very covert way over the weekend, but twice. Texts are sent, calls are made and fingers are pointed. Yes .. it is happening in our school!
“Where are the parents?” you might ask. I do too. But it seems that some of them are there. With their heads either facing each other, or hidden in the sand.
What would happen if this treatment was directed at their child?
What do they do to advise their children …how does one teach empathy and compassion rather than cruelty, rejection and shaming? How much do children model their behaviour on their parents’?
What happens to the victim of “‘mean girls’ behaviour” ? Do they retreat? React? Mimic? Lash out? Hide?
How do schools effectively deal with this behaviour?
How do parents effectively deal with this behaviour?
How do friends effectively deal with this behaviour?
Is there a way to find resolution?